New to the Scene? Here’s How It Works
Welcome to Rope & Candy. Haven’t been to a sex party before? Don’t worry: there’s a first time for everything. This article will walk you through all of it. If you have any questions left afterwards, don’t hesitate to ask!
In our circle, the first step is never a party. When you join, one of the founders or a Rope & Candy representative meets you first, over a coffee or a dinner when we are in your town. Invitations to small nights among friends come after that.
Before the Party
Plan out your answers to introductory questions such as your name, where you are from, and your occupation. You are free to use an alias if you feel uncomfortable using your real name. We find it’s simpler sticking to your real first name, but that’s up to you.
Couples should work out their boundaries and rules regarding playing with others. Discuss among yourselves why you are attending and how you choose to play. You can set limits to whatever level of engagement you feel comfortable with. You and your partner will be more comfortable if the rules are clarified in advance.
Some couples won’t have sex with anyone who won’t include their partner. Others prefer to have sex only while their husband or wife is present but not necessarily involved. All these arrangements are perfectly fine. New guests often take this approach because having sex in the presence of others is a liberating experience in itself.
There are also couples who come primarily to help the female partner act on her bisexual fantasies. It’s all good.
You are under no pressure to do anything, other than respecting the house rules of the night. No one touches you in a way you haven’t given a clear consent to. A simple ‘no’ is all that’s needed to fend off advances from other guests and they will gracefully accept your decision.
The house rules are simple: consent first, no means no, and no phones or cameras.
Once You Are In
The nights in our circle are private and small. They start off as a pleasant get-together. Guests socialize, drink and chat, meet old friends, and make new connections. Sometimes, those connections deepen and you never know where they might lead. Of course, you can leave at any time. But who passes up an opportunity to have kinky fun in a very private setting, anyway?
If you’re a first-timer, don’t press the panic button just yet. It’s always a good idea to make other members know this is your first time. The other guests are very welcoming and will help you through your first experience.
As people get familiar with each other, connections form and things can get hot and steamy. You can ALWAYS stop the sexual act if you change your mind. It’s all about consent. Nobody can randomly have sex with you because they want to.
Dress to Impress… and Undress
Every host sets the dress code for their own night, and the invitation tells you what it is. Many hosts love a dressed-up start, smart suits and dresses, with lingerie later in the evening. Others keep it relaxed. Wear what makes you feel good within the host’s code.
Embrace your sexuality
Ready? Join Rope & Candy for free, tell us where you spend your time, and we will say hello when we are near.